Creating Loving Supportive Relationships

In my coaching practice, a common theme I see is the belief that relationships are not a safe space. I work with my clients to assist them to repattern their system to the understanding that relationships can be a safe space and that it can be safe to trust and experience love and support in their relationships.

For people who have experienced any sort of “challenge” in their childhood, or in their primary relationships as adults, if there has been reactive or unhealthy behaviors then this can imprint in the system and influence the beliefs held around relationships both at a conscious and subconscious level. 

This unhealthy behavior can be obvious. It can also be more subtle, and take the form of emotionally unhealthy behaviors, like repeated judgment, criticism, blame, anger, competition, bullying, avoidance, impatience or simply an unsafe home or living environment. 

This can be confusing for the client’s internal system because in one moment they love this person deeply and the next moment this person is not a safe space. 

If you experienced this as a child then it’s possible this can be played out in your adult relationships and similar types of patterning can be repeated. This happens because our nervous system and sense-of-self developed a belief around what relationships look like, based on these experiences.

We can often find ourselves repeating similar patterns until we become aware of them. When we see and recognize them we then have the opportunity to change these internal beliefs and experience something different in our relationships.

Once we change our internal beliefs we begin to magnetize new experiences in a relationship and we can then start to grow in our understanding and experience (and practice) of cultivating loving, supportive relationships.

I am deeply inspired to be doing this type of work with my clients. Assisting them to become aware of these core thoughts and beliefs and create new mental pathways, new emotional pathways, and a new experience in the nervous system and in the body. 

We have the power to see our limiting beliefs and change them on a very foundational level that then ripples out to transform our experience of life and our experience of relationships.

When we shift our core beliefs we can start to create relationships that are safe, loving, supportive, and in alignment with our Highest Good.

As we shift our internal environment, we shift how we experience life and what we attract to us.

Change really does start within.

If any of this resonates with you, I invite you to explore my Living Wisdom Coaching.